Life is too short to be mean to yourself.

It can be hard to avoid comparing yourself to others. We can all do it from time to time - at work, at school or college, with friends, on social media...

But this act of constantly evaluating how you measure up can have a big impact on your mental health and how you see yourself.

A simple “I’ll never look like him or her,” can quickly spiral into “I’ll never be good enough for anyone.”

Before you know it, just looking at yourself in the mirror can trigger thoughts of self-hatred and frustration.

Do any of these sound like you?

❗️All or nothing statements. You see your life as a list of ultimatums, most of them resulting in catastrophe. For example, “If I fail this exam, I’ll have failed college and be a total loser.”

❗️Only focusing on the negative. It doesn’t matter how good your day was - sunshine, ice cream, puppies — all you can think about is what went wrong...

❗️Believing a feeling is a fact. Instead of “I feel like a failure,” you think, “I am a failure.”

❗️Low self-esteem. You don’t feel like you’re good enough to be around friends and family, to apply for new jobs, or to put yourself out there for new opportunities.

If you can relate, DON’T PANIC. Things might feel overwhelming right now, but trust me, YOU ARE worthy of love, especially from yourself.💓

What can you do?

🌸Pay attention to your triggers

🌼Challenge your negative thoughts

🌸Practice positive self-talk

🌼Re-frame your negative thoughts

🌸Spend time with people who make you happy & uplift you

🌼Practice self-compassion

🌸Ask for help if you need it

Learning how to go from, “I hate myself,” to “I will do better tomorrow,” won’t come easily, but it will be one of the most beneficial life skills you will have.

Preparing you for whatever else life faces with you with!👊🏼